What Is NLP?
Nlp is a way of understanding how your mind works. A bit like a user manual, and helps you bring about positive changes to your life.
The term “nlp” was first created in the 1970s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. It’s making a connection between neurological processes, language and behaviour.
Of course nlp has always been around, but most of us are not aware of it. For example sales people and advertising executives frequently use nlp to get people to buy products.
Have you ever walked into a store to buy something and a well known brand name popped into your mind? Chances are you may not have been paying full attention to the ad on tv but somehow it managed to get inside your head!
How can nlp help you
Dr Richard Bandler says that if you think differently you’ll feel differently. You can make massive changes to your physical body as well as your mind by changing how you think and react to situations.
As a result your level of vibration will change and you’ll attract positive experiences into your life.
Bandler comes from a scientific background and likens nlp to reprograming the operating system on a computer.
He believes you can not only achieve success and improve self confidence, but also overcome phobias. Great news if you suffer from agraphobia, claustraphobia, or even fear of heights!
Nlp is a way of rewiring the brain. The idea that you can actually make changes in the brain by rewiring it is a fairly new idea. People would have thought you were mad if you thought about such things in the 1950s and 1960s! In fact today it’s become mainstream and acknowledged by doctors in stroke recovery. I’ve seen this first hand having suffered a mild stroke 2 years ago.
It used to be thought that once a person suffers brain damage through stroke or other traumatic event, if that part of the body affected doesn’t improve after a few weeks it would most likely be permanent. Those brain cells responsible for telling the arm or hand to move would stay turned off unless a great attempt was made to get it working again.
It’s now known that the brain can be rewired. It’s not a magic cure though and can take months or years of hard determined work.
Using nlp to overcome a negative experience that’s made you fearful
We’ve all experienced situations when things go wrong. Most times people forget about it and move on, however if you already suffer a lack of confidence it could build up in your mind to the point where you avoid this situation again out of fear.
One example is driving. You’re a competent driver and approached the same roundabout many times, but one particular time another motorist cuts you up on your approach, narrowly missing disaster! This image stays in your mind and is constantly played back everytime you think of that stretch of road.
As a result you avoid it and end up driving miles out of your way just to get from A to B.
The solution is to expose yourself to the feared situation and then the fear will gradually lessen. Failing to do this will magnify the fear in your mind until it becomes a phobia.
Play back the video that triggered your fear in your mind. As you do so shrink the size of the image or dim the brightness just as you would in a real video. This will instantly make it less scary.
You could also remember all the times you drove on that same stretch of road with no incidences, and how well you handled the situation.
Anchoring nlp to help overcome a fear
Anchoring is a simple technique that anyone can do, and is very powerful. Put simply, it’s a way of producing a desired feeling using a word or gesture.
It can overide negative emotions such as fear or anxiety. We naturally create anchoring during our day to day lives. For example you walk into a house and smell the delicious aroma of brewed coffee. This makes you think of wonderful relaxing Sunday mornings as you start the day with freshly brewed coffee and reading the Sunday papers.
This is often used by house sellers to evoke a relaxed and homely atmosphere. The same technique is often used by coffee shop owners or bakeries. Paul Mckenna explains how to use an nlp relaxation technique including using a “calm anchor”
So how can anchoring help you?
Simply choose a word or create a gesture such as lightly touching the inside of your elbow and think of a happy memory. It could be the moment your boyfriend propsed, or your excitement at opening an envelope with your grades for passing an exam
As you recall that memory either say that word or carry out that gesture. It must be a strong memory for it to work. You may need to repeat anchoring several times before it becomes fixed.
Next time you feel anxious use the anchor to evoke peace and calmness.
Spinning feelings to quickly reduce anxiety
This simple nlp technique can be used to quickly reduce feelings of fear or anxiety. You may find this works well for you if you suffer from phobias such as flying, going to the dentist, or attending social events where you don’t know anyone.
The first thing you need to do is to identify that feeling. Close your eyes and picture yourself in that feared situation. For example entering the dental clinic.
Feelings move within the body and by creating that feeling you may become aware that it starts in a certain place for example the tummy and moves up towards the throat. Imagine this feeling spinning as it moves, then moving out of your body and spinning in front of you.
Can you then give it a colour? I know this sounds very new age and a little weird but just give it a go.
Next think of a colour that makes you feel happy and change the spinning feeling to this new colour. Then change the direction of the spin and enter it back into your body.
By making these changes to anxious feelings you can spin them back down and out of your body. Changing the colour will also make them less powerful and intimidating.
If this doesn’t work try another technique until you find something that does. Everyone is different and what may work for one may not work for another.
What is nlp hypnotherapy?
Nlp hypnotherapy is a way of helping you to relax and revisit past events in a calm manner, so you can accept and let go of them. You can use it for overcoming addictions such as smoking, or just make breakthroughs in a faster more efficient way.
Hynotherapy can help you focus internally on a problem rather than externally. You may find you get results faster and feel more able to cope with negative situations in just a few sessions.
There are plenty of nlp courses courses online, but take your time to research and study any testimonials. Leading experts in the field of nlp and empowering the mind include Tony Robbins and Bob Proctor.
Wishing you health and happiness:)