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Discover What The Law Of Attraction Is About (And Is It Real)

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Have you ever wondered what the law of attraction is about? You’ve probably heard about it, after all, it’s become a popular topic of conversation. Is it real though, or a lot of nonsense? There are tons of books on the subject including one of the most popular “the secret” There are also plenty of videos and audios explaining how to make law of attraction work in your favour.

In this post you’ll discover what the law of attraction is about so you can make your own mind up. We’ll look at quantum physics and law of attraction, as well as thoughts and energy. We’ll also look at the possibility of drawing abundance into your life.

Where did law of attraction originate from?

Though very much a part of popular culture today, it hasn’t always been. It’s believed Buddha was the first to teach the concept that we are the result of our thoughts. In other words, you are what you think. It’s only in the past few decades that law of attraction has become mainstream. There are many well known teachers including Abraham, who speaks through Esther Hicks. Bob Proctor is another great example, and is a world renowned speaker.

How does law of attraction work?

As previously mentioned, law of attraction is based on the idea that we are what be believe ourselves to be. Quantum physics teaches us that everything in the universe is created from energy. This includes thoughts which can uplift or depress you. As like attracts like, negative energy will attract more negativity into your life. On the other hand positive thoughts and beliefs wiil attract abundance.

How can you make law of attraction work for you?

Most people make the mistake of focusing on what they don’t want rather than what they want. For example, worrying about debt or never having enough money. The secret is to focus on what you want instead. Forget the things you don’t want in your life, and you’ll be changing your energy from negative to positive. Imagine how great life will be when you get, or achieve whatever it is you want.

Feel the emotion to make law of attraction work!

As you’ve discovered, thoughts are very powerful, so by feeling the emotion of your desires you’re adding strength. Feeling what it’s like to own the car you want is very powerful. Believing you already have whatever it is you desire adds even more power!

Your subconscious doesn’t know if something’s real or not. For example, saying to yourself you don’t want debt can draw more of it into your life. It doesn’t hear the word don’t, only debt!! The subconscious part of your mind only wants to please, and always delivers what it believes you want. Whether it’s money, love, or health, always focus your thoughts on the positivity of already having it.

Gratitude and law of attraction

gratitude and law of attraction

Showing gratitude for all the good things in your life creates positive energy, boosting your vibration. Even if you don’t feel you have anything to be thankful for, trust me, there is always something. Feeling happy draws positive energy towards you. This is a big part of law of attraction.

Keeping a gratitude journal can help remind you of all the good things you already have. It’s easy to lose sight of all the positive things when you’re feeling down. It doesn’t matter if it’s a physical diary, or virtual one. As long as you jot down your experiences at the end of each day.

How do you make law of attraction work?

Many people ask “how can I make the law of attraction work for me?” The truth is, it’s always working for each and everyone of us. However, it’s your core beliefs and the thoughts you feed your mind that create your reality.

You can help make law of attraction work in your favour by changing negative beliefs and focusing on positive thoughts. This isn’t as easy as it sounds though. Years of conditioning from well meaning family and friends tend to shape our beliefs.

These core beliefs lie deep in your subconscious. The way you react to situations and events is determined a lot by this. Changing ingrained beliefs can be done, but takes time. If you’ve always been a negative thinker, you’ll find it hard to change into a positive, happy person overnight.

Dealing with negative thoughts

You may believe that a negative thought has already done its damage by simply entering your mind. But, a thought only damages your thinking process when it’s allowed to linger and becomes a strong and powerful force.

These thoughts may keep repeating themselves when necessary to keep you under their “spell.” For example you have a bad experience with a failed relationship.

You blame yourself, and draw on past negative experiences to fuel the belief things always go wrong. This will happen time and time again until you let go of the past and stop focusing on failure. Negative thoughts will continue to rise to the surface at the start of future new relationships causing them to fail. You’ll subconsciously do things that will have a negative impact. This is how law of attraction works.

Getting rid of deeply ingrained negative beliefs isn’t easy and requires a lot of work. Affirmations can help but if you don’t believe them at a subconscious level they won’t have much effect.

Attracting your desires into your life

As you’ve discovered, law of attraction is always working. It’s like law of gravity and never fails! Attracting something you desire whether it’s a relationship, physical object, or better job, you must feel the emotion of already having it.

Happy, positive thoughts raise your vibrational state bring it into line with your desire. The more you focus on having something and getting emotionally involved, the closer you’ll draw it towards you.

The timing of when you’ll actually receive your desire may be further into the future than you’d like. However once your energy is aligned with it, things will start to happen. Coincidences, people coming into your life at the right time, and so on.

For example, you may see an opportunity to apply for a job you’ve dreamed of having. Better pay, greater chance of reaching your full potential etc. Alternatively, you receive a cheque in the post from a client that covers the cost of a down payment on your dream car!

Attracting abundance

Law of attraction and law of abundance are very much the same.
There is already plenty of everything in the universe. Enough for everyone and more! Abundance is already yours! You just have to tune into the right frequency to receive it. If you’re forever short of money with debts piling up, once you align yourself with the right frequency, you can become a money magnet!

Quantum physics and law of attraction

Quantum physics relates to tiny microscopic particles of matter that make up all living and physical objects in the universe. These tiny particles are in a constant state of movement and vibration. As you know, everything is created from energy, including your thoughts. The theory is you can manifest anything you want by focusing your mind on it. Scientists agree that thoughts affect matter. Words and thoughts are actually electrical impulses that have the ability to affect physical matter.

As wacky as it sounds, the more you visualise and focus on that new car you want, the likelier you are to get it! You’re simply bringing it closer to your reality. Of course, there are other steps you need to take, but if you are passionate enough about something and have a plan, anything is possible.

Now you know what the law of attraction is about, I hope you decide to find out more about it in greater depth. You’ll find plenty of articles here, and There are also plenty of videos and books on law of attraction as well.

Please leave any comments below as I’d love to hear your thoughts on law of attraction 🙂

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Wishing you success and prosperity
Take care
Kathy

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How To Overcome Obstacles In Your Life

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Knowing how to overcome obstacles in your life can have amazing results!! Obstacles can hold you back, making you feel stuck, unable to move forward.

The truth is many perceived obstacles don’t really exist. This may sound crazy as they’re very real in your mind, but read on as I explain.   We all tend to see things as being far worse than they really are. It’s human nature and it’s all down to something known as framing.   It’s a way of compartmentalising thoughts.

In a similar way you file documents so you file your thoughts. If you didn’t do this you wouldn’t even know how to think properly! You’d be in a right mess!!   Framing is a mental structure dependant on how you see yourself and the world around you. If you lack self belief you’ll find yourself focusing on why you can’t do something instead of how you’ll do it.  

You may think of a great idea for achieving your goal, but your inner voice will find many reasons why this won’t work for you. You’ll make excuses as to why you shouldn’t start a new project. You may find yourself turning down opportunities and this will stop you making progress.   You’ll find a million and one reasons why you should wait until the perfect time before starting something. Of course, there is no perfect time and you’d wait forever!

Typically this results in procrastination which stops you moving forward and achieving your goals.   Framing is based on core beliefs and affects the way you react to situations. It can make you handle criticism badly if you have low self-esteem. On the other hand, it can make you even more determined if you have a positive belief system.  

A lot of your belief systems originate in childhood. Parents, teachers and peers all have a profound effect on how you see yourself. Life experiences can also affect your self belief.

How to stop negative thoughts with reframing

 
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You have hundreds of thoughts entering your mind on a constant basis. This is completely normal but unfortunately many are negative.
 
If you allow these negative thoughts to stay they can seriously hold you back. The truth is, most things we spend ages fearing and worrying over rarely happen. Most fears really are all in the mind!
 
However, your mind isn’t trying to sabotage you on purpose. It’s actually trying to help. You’re preparing yourself for the worst case scenario.
 
Reframing can help ease these anxious thoughts making them weaker. You’re training your mind to see things from a different perspective which makes a huge difference to your outlook.
 
After a while you’ll find worrying thoughts no longer have the power to control you. You can’t stop them entering your mind but you’ll react to them differently.
 

Overcoming personal challenges

 
You may have personal challenges to overcome but how do you keep motivated after setbacks? They say struggle builds character and either makes you or breaks you.
 
Setbacks are inevitable and all part of the road to success. Many great inventors and entrepreneurs only found success after numerous failures. Edison failed 100 times before creating the first lightbulb!
 
If something fails or you seem to be getting a lot of setbacks just look upon them as lessons. If you feel discouraged try and see things in a more positive light. Reframing your thoughts will help you find solutions.
 
It will also make it easier to handle set backs, and not feel so overwhelmed by them. Remember, setbacks are only temporary. Most can be overcome with a bit of thought and careful planning.
 
When you get a setback or hit an obstacle don’t look at the bigger picture. Work out what you need to do and break your plan up into small achievable steps.
 

Overcoming obstacles with affirmations

 
Affirmations are simply words or phrases that are repeated regularly either mentally or spoken out loud. They have the power to reprogram your mind and help overcome obstacles.
 
You can find plenty of affirmations online tailored towards your specific needs. You could even write your own!
 
Creating affirmations as if you’ve already achieved your goal is very powerful. Imagine how you’ll feel and go into great detail.
 
Your subconscious won’t question whether it’s real or not. Overcoming obstacles will become easy. You must stick with it though and repeat your affirmations multiple times a day.
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Keep a journal

 
Overcoming obstacles can be made easier by keeping a journal. Record any negative thoughts that enter your head during the day, as well as any achievements you make.
 
Some hurdles in life can take a long while to overcome so noting progress is an excellent tool. Don’t worry how slow things take. You’ll look back in a few months and realise just how far you’ve come!
 

Overcoming obstacles with gratitude

 
When you’re faced with obstacles it’s easy to feel sorry for yourself. Self talk can become negative drawing more of what you don’t want towards you.
 
Just a simple shift in your thought pattern can have an almost magical effect. Think about everything you already have. It doesn’t have to be materialistic. It could be relationships or family.
 
Think about your achievements no matter how insignificant. You will have achieved plenty in your life, trust me! Often when you’re faced with setbacks you forget about all your successes.
 
Your mind is zoning in on this one thing blotting everything else out! In many cases what you see as a disastrous failure is a minor glitch can you can easily resolve.
 
Think about all the opportunities that came your way. These are precious gifts from the universe. Giving thanks for all you’ve gratefully received allows the universe to send more of the same.
 

Positive thinking

 
Positive thoughts help make overcoming obstacles so much easier. By reframing your mind and making affirmations your whole outlook will change.
 
What you once saw as obstacles blocking your path to success will become a minor hindrance. You’ll also find it easier to work out solutions.
 
Feeling positive raises your level of vibration. This in turn attracts positive energy towards you. Viewing change as something to be feared can be very destructive. It can hold you back from achieving goals. If you tend to see things negatively you may see it as an obstacle.
 

Leaving your comfort zone can help overcome obstacles

 
Making yourself do things differently can boost your confidence. It may not be earth shatteringly different, but it can prove to yourself you’ll capable of solving problems.
 
Leaving your comfort zone can be hard, but just pushing yourself slightly on a regular basis increases self confidence. For example, driving a different way to work challenges you to work out a new route.
 
Talk to a new person every day or learn a new language. Anything that stretches you or makes you feel uncomfortable is good.
 

Take up meditation.

 
Meditation makes you feel calm and relaxed. You can’t solve problems easily when you’re stressed, and this is why things can seem a thousand times worse than they really are.
 
Meditation allows you to get in touch with your inner self. It can help you find answers to problems and overcome obstacles.
 
Life never runs smoothly all the time. There will always be issues needing your attention. The thing is to never let them take over.
 
Remember, most things you see as obstacles standing in your way can be worked through and are never as bad as they seem. I hope this article has helped show you how overcoming obstacles can be easier than you think!
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Wishing you good health and happiness.
 
Take care
Kathy
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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How To Use Mantras To Transform Anxiety Into Powerful Energy

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knowing how to use mantras effectively can help relieve stress and anxiety.

Mantras have been used in meditation for thousands of years in the East. It’s only since the 1960s that the idea of meditation and mantras has caught on in the West.

If you can remember the era of flower power, peace and love, you’ll also remember burning joss sticks and meditation. Apart from psychedelia and drug taking, chanting mantras and meditating was the in thing.

Decades later, it’s become mainstream, along with spirituality and healing. If you suffer from stress and anxiety, using mantras with meditation is a great way to ease it.

What are mantras?

Mantras are simply words or sounds that help you enter a meditative state. They’re often single words or short phrases used to override the thousand and one thoughts going through your mind.

While you’re focusing on the mantra your mind becomes calmer. Listening to the soothing sound of Tibetan singing bowls for example, has a very calming effect.

Singing bowls are widely used in Tibet and India to aid meditation and healing. The sound is a deep, long lasting hum. As the sound is of a high vibrational frequency it harmonises your mind and body.

Why negative self talk affects you physically, and how mantras help

As your mind and body are closely connected, what you think affects your state of health and wellbeing. When you’re happy, every cell in your body vibrates at a higher frequency. You feel full of energy and have that zing or sparkle.

If on the other hand you’re stressed and talking to yourself in a negative way, you may feel unwell. Tiredness and lack of energy are common side effects of stress.

Mantras help break the cycle of negative self talk. Used in meditation they provide a focal point. You’re less likely to continue inner chatter if your mind is focused on something.

Some sound mantras are of a very high vibrational frequency, as with singing bowls. Listening to them can help lower blood pressure and heart rate.

Mantras and meditation also boost cell health. Long term anxiety and stress have a negative effect on every cell in your body. With regular use of mantras you can help lower the risk of degenerative diseases

The high level of vibration from chanting mantras creates a flow of positive energy. You’ll feel lighter with plenty of get up and go!

Repetition is the key

As with anything else you’re learning or forming new habits with, you must repeat them daily. You’ll also need plenty of enthusiasm and willpower to keep going

You can chant your chosen mantras anytime and anywhere. Whether silently in your head as you’re driving, or outloud in front of a mirror. It doesn’t matter as long as you’re repeating them.

Chant mantras as you switch off the light and prepare to sleep. You’ll wake up feeling happier about things. The more you feed your mind with positive affirmations and mantras the quicker your brain cells will start rewiring.

Don’t expect instant results. Yes, chanting mantras repeatedly will help you feel better. However, it can take weeks or months before you feel the full effect.

Combining mantras with meditation can speed up the process. You may start to feel energised and less anxious even after just a few sessions!

What is mantra meditation?

Mantra meditation is simply using a word or sound to help enter a deeper state of relaxation. You can meditate by focusing on the breath, but thoughts and feelings still linger in the background, especially if you’re a beginner.

Why is mantra meditation so good at relieving anxiety?

If you suffer from anxiety it can be more challenging to enter a meditative state. Having a sound or word to chant gives you something to focus on. This makes it easier to redirect your thoughts and keep in the zone.

Though you can choose to ignore random thoughts, mantras are a more effective way to quieten the mind. While you’re focusing on a sound or word your mind can’t entertain anything else.

What are the best mantras to use?

One of the oldest and most well known mantras is “om.” It’s associated with sitting in the lotus position and chanting.

“Om” goes back to ancient civilisations when it was used for humans to communicate and heal one another. Why it’s so powerful is because of it’s level of vibration.  At 432 Hz this is the level of frequency found in nature.

Chanting the “om” mantra aligns mind, body and spirit with the universe. This is very powerful when used in meditation.

Chanting meditation

What is the difference between mantras and affirmations?

Affirmations are words or phrases repeated frequently to help reprogram the mind and override negative thoughts.

They penetrate your subconscious helping to create positive beliefs about yourself. Affirming new beliefs and desires is very powerful.

Though mantras were traditionally used in meditation, you can certainly use affirmations. Instead of chanting “om” during your meditation session use a positive phrase that fits in with your life.

Using affirmations this way boosts their power. Your mind is far more receptive when you’re relaxed. This is why hypnosis works so well.

The best time of day for mantra meditation is just before you go to sleep. Your brainwaves will of a slower frequency as you drift into light sleep.

This is when you often get flashes of inspiration and when your brain is at it’s most receptive.

I still recommend using a sound or mantra to help enter meditation. Once you’re relaxed and feeling calm then you can start repeating affirmations.

Wording your mantra or affirmation

How you word your affirmation makes a huge difference. Being vague with no feeling makes it bland. You’re far more likely to make it work if it’s in the present tense with plenty of emotion.

For example, Saying “I’m no longer anxious” is OK but doesn’t evoke any feeling. Saying “I’m thrilled I can drive on the freeway now I’m no longer stressed or anxious” is far stronger.

It’s also more specific giving your mantra a greater chance of working for you. Read how positive affirmations can change your life.

Can mantras with yoga relieve anxiety?

Yoga can make you feel calm and centered but is different from meditation. It’s a physical practice requiring a lot more skill and training.

You’re focusing on mind, body, and breath as you hold complex poses. Using mantras can help focus your mind while you’re practicing yoga, but for stress relief you may find meditation better.

Many people practice both, enjoying great flexibility well into old age as well as a stress free mind. Meditation doesn’t require anything other than a comfortable place to sit.

You can happily chant mantras while sitting on the sofa, or even in your car! Yoga however, needs space and ideally a yoga mat.

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I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this post and that it’s helped you understand how to use mantras

Wishing you health and happiness:)

Take care

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How To Find Your Soulmate Using Law Of Attraction

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If you’ve been trying to find your soulmate with no luck keep reading as I show you exactly how you can. Firstly though, what is a soulmate?

You’ll know instinctively when you find that special person. It’s like you’ve known each other all your life but you’ve only just met.

You accept each other as you are, and overlook negative traits. Soulmates have an almost telepathic link. You finish each other’s sentences and are very much in tune with one another.

That sense of knowing each other before may well be from a past life. You may have known your soulmate in a previous existence and are destined to meet again in this life.

Does everyone have a soulmate?

Everyone has at least one soulmate. A soulmate can be a friend, lover, or even family member. Every soul is part of a group, and your own soul group is destined to play a part in your life.

Some of them may only connect with you for a short time. Maybe to help you overcome a problem, or guide you in the right direction.

A romantic soulmate may stay with you your entire life. However, this may not always be the case. Life experiences can make you drift apart.

Finding your soulmate can take years. You may even have to endure several relationships before you find “the right one”

Are you ready to find your soulmate?

I believe your soulmate will enter your life when you’ve reached the right maturity. This may mean dating quite a few guys before you finally click with “the right one”

However, you can take steps to attract your soulmate into your life sooner than later. Being in the right place emotionally and on a similar vibrational level will help draw your soulmate into your life.

Be clear about who you want to attract

attract soulmateIf you want to find your soulmate you must be very clear on the qualities you desire. This has nothing to with outward appearance.

Your soulmate may not necessarily have looks you normally go for. Common ground, feelings and shared interests are more important.

Spend time thinking about your ideal partner and even make notes if it helps. The more information you have the better.

Make a vision board

Creating a vision board for anything you desire is very powerful. It’s like placing an order with the universe. Collect images from magazines, old photos, and anywhere you find a picture that resonates with you. Paste onto a large board and add text.

You could even create a vision board online if you wish. This can easily be done using free software such as Canva. There are plenty of videos on Youtube to help you get started.

Make sure your vision board is somewhere you’ll see it! You need to study it everyday as a reminder. Don’t just look at the images but feel the emotion of finding your soulmate.

Believe you’re already in a loving relationship.

Even if you haven’t yet found your soulmate, feeling the emotion of being loved in a warm and loving relationship will draw “the right one closer.”

Focusing your mind on what you want as if it’s already in your life brings its energy into alignment with yours. Focusing on how lonely you feel will only serve to draw more loneliness into your life.

Love yourself

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Before you even think about finding your soulmate you need to make peace with yourself. If you don’t like who you are, you’re giving off negative vibes creating a barrier.

You’re perfect as you are right now.  Whether you’ve lost your job, have no money, or not yet achieved your goals it doesn’t matter.

You deserve to be loved and treated with respect, no matter what. We are often our own worst critics, setting ourselves impossibly high standards.

Waiting until you believe you’re good enough to find your soulmate will never happen. You deserve love right now. Be kind and respectful towards yourself as you would be towards others.

Look after your physical body, and just like driving a car, look for any warning signs that something may not be right.

Take care of your soul health by meditating or practicing yoga. Avoid negative, toxic people as their energy will rub off on you.

This is especially important if you’re a sensitive person. Hang out with your positive friends instead as they’ll always make you feel good!

Feeling love toward yourself will raise your vibration, attracting new friends as well as your soulmate.

The law of attraction is always at work no matter your level of vibration. As like attracts like, a high level of vibration will draw positive energy towards you. As a result, you’ll be open to finding your soulmate when he comes into your life.

When will you find your soulmate?

There is no exact answer to this. The universe will always deliver, providing you ask. However, even if you’ve followed all the laws of attraction you may still have to wait.

Don’t make the mistake of assuming you’ll meet your soulmate in a certain place or time. We often meet “the right one” in the most unexpected places.

You may even believe it to be pure coincidence when it happens.  What’s more likely is the universe conspiring to bring you both together!

Be grateful for everything you have

Just like love, gratitude is a powerful emotion. It makes you feel happy and instantly raises your level of vibration.

No matter how bad you’re feeling, taking time to think of all the good things in your life will make you feel much better in an instant.

Write a list of everything you’re thankful for and keep it in a place you’ll easily find. Read it every day and add to it as time goes on.

Meditation to attract your soulmate

meditation to attract your soulmate

Meditation allows you to get in touch with your inner self. It helps focus your mind and slows down all the thousands of random thoughts constantly entering your head.
Regular meditation enables you to dismiss any negative thoughts before they take hold. You’ll find it easier to maintain a higher level of vibration, and can focus on visualizing your soulmate.
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Affirmations to attract your soulmate

Affirmations are very powerful as they’re a statement of your beliefs. We make them all the time whether in conversation or in our minds.
Affirmations become instilled in your subconscious, creating your reality. If you keep telling yourself you’ll never find your soulmate you’re creating mental blocks.
As a result trying to find your soulmate will be an impossible task. On the other hand stating your soulmate is already drawn towards you is far more powerful. You’re breaking down blocks holding you back, and aligning your energy with that which you desire.
Here are a few affirmations to get you started.  You can make your own tailored to your needs, or do a search online.
I am being drawn towards my soulmate”
 
“I am open to receiving love”
 
“I release all blocks holding me back from finding love”
 
“My soul is guiding me towards my soulmate”
 
“I love being with my soulmate”
Keep repeating these affirmations as often as possible. Don’t just say the words but feel the emotion.
Once they’ve become embedded in your subconscious you’ll attract positive relationships with all the qualities you’re looking for.

Don’t try and make someone into your soulmate

No matter how much you long to find your soulmate, trying to force it won’t work. Settling down with someone believing you can turn them into your soulmate is never going to happen.
It’s like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole! Be patient and never settle for second best. Your soulmate is out there somewhere waiting to find you!
Wishing you health and happiness,
Take care
Kathy
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5 Ways To Pick Yourself Up When You’re Feeling Low

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If you find it hard to pick yourself up after a setback keep reading as I provide genuine ways that work.

I know how you feel as I’ve had my fair share of setbacks over the years. Sometimes it’s easy to blame someone else, or even yourself. I don’t think anyone can go through life without at least a few ups and downs.

It’s not the situation

When you’re faced with a setback it’s not the situation itself but how you react to it that’s important. The first thing you have to question is whether you can change it.

Stressing over something that’s out of your control will bring you down. In such circumstances, it’s best to accept it and move on. On the other hand, if you can fix it, make a plan of action that will put things right.

Why do I feel so down?

There are a number of reasons you may be feeling a bit down. Unless you’re clinically depressed you can help yourself feel better.

You may be getting over a breakup, recovering from a divorce, or even feeling down after you lost your job. Whatever the reason you must firstly realize it’s only temporary. Nothing stays the same and you’ll feel better soon

Feeling down for no reason

If you’ve no reason to feel down take a look at your lifestyle. If you eat a lot of junk foods or you don’t get enough sleep you may need to address these areas.

The weather can also affect your mood, and if you suffer from SAD winter can be a difficult time. Those who suffer from seasonal affected disorder are highly sensitive to changes in weather.

Anyway, here are what I consider to be the best 6 ways to pick yourself up. I hope you try some of them out as none are hard.

1 Feel gratitude

feel gratitudeThere is no better way to pick yourself up than feeling grateful for what you have. Making a list of things that make you happy, even if it’s something as simple as playing with your dog.

No matter how bad you feel, gratitude will quickly lift your spirits. Once you start typing, you’ll find so many things you have in your life to be thankful for. Keep the list on your mobile device so you can look at it anytime you feel down.

2. Setting goals

A great way to pick yourself up, especially if you’ve faced rejection is to set goals. Try and have faith in yourself as you’re much more capable than you realize. You really can achieve anything you want if you set your mind to it.

Decide what you want in life. If you feel down because it’s taking you longer to do something, then make a plan. Maybe you want to write a novel but you can’t seem to get started.

How long will it take? Have a date in mind and work back to the present moment. Create daily action steps that are easily achievable. Maybe get up one hour earlier each day and use that time for writing.

The same goes for anything you want in life. Having goals keeps you focused. Getting over a break up can be painful. The last thing on your mind is setting goals, however, using it as an excuse to reinvent yourself could be the best thing ever.

Being single gives you plenty of freedom to do what you want. Now is the time to sit down and make some plans! Think about any ambitions you put on hold when you were in the relationship.

3 Mindfulness

Mindfulness is becoming increasingly popular. It’s not the same as meditation but can make you forget your problems and lift your mood.

In meditation, you’re focusing on the breath or an object. You’re calming down your thoughts by observing them as a third party.

Mindfulness gets you to focus on an activity or just like meditation, your breathing. For example, coloring is a popular way of practicing mindfulness.

Being mindful means you’re fully aware of the present moment. You can’t help but feel calm as your brain can only focus on one thing at a time.

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4 Exercise

If you’re feeling low the last thing you want to do is exercise.  However, it can be a great way to pick yourself up. A common reason for feeling a bit down is inactivity. The more you lie around feeling sorry for yourself, the worse you’ll feel.

Sitting on the couch watching tv is great for a short while, but not for long periods of time. Getting outside in the fresh air will boost your mood.

Research has shown that walking in a green space and spending time in nature lifts your mood and makes you feel happier. Even if it takes all your effort to grab the keys and leave the house, you’ll soon notice the benefits.

If you live in the city with few green spaces walking will still have a positive effect. If you work in an office spend your lunch break outside in the fresh air.

<Exercise can even become addictive as it has such a powerful effect on your mood. Lying in bed all morning will have the opposite effect and only make you feel much worse.

5. Listen to upbeat music

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Music has a very powerful effect on your mood, and listening to upbeat music you enjoy will make you feel better. It’s even been shown that music can help alleviate pain. Whether its soul, jazz, or funk, listen to what makes you feel energized and happy.

6 Spoil yourself

One of the best ways to pick yourself up is to indulge in your favorite treats. Go shopping with a friend and buy yourself a nice top, or get your hair done.

Eat your favorite comfort food. Whether it’s ice cream or a bar of chocolate, as once in a while won’t do you any harm.

7 Spend time with friends

Even if you don’t feel like going out anywhere it’s good to keep up with your friends. Feeling low is the time you need them most.

Meet up for coffee or go and see a movie. Tell your friends how you feel. Talking things through with someone helps put everything into perspective.

You can often find solutions or ways to resolve things just by talking about them. This is when inspiration hits you.

8 Forgive yourself

We all make mistakes. It’s part of being human. The main thing though is that you learn from them. Beating yourself up over past mistakes is not only pointless, it will bring you down. You can’t travel back in time like Marty in Back To The Future!

If it was possible we’d all be traveling back a few years! I know I would. As I mentioned previously if you can’t change a situation accept it.

Do your best for now and plan how you can improve things in future. Rejections, setbacks, and crisis are all part of life.

Above all else, keep positive. Most times things work out for themselves. Sometimes it may feel like the end of the world, but trust me it’s not.

Remember, everything is transient. Nothing stays the same forever. You may be feeling down right now but this will change. I hope this article has inspired you with ways to pick yourself up.

Wishing you health and happiness

Take care

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How Daily Positive Affirmations Can Change Your Life

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Daily positive affirmations have the power to change your life!

We make affirmations all the time without even thinking about it. The problem is though, many of these affirmations are negative, and The more you repeat them the more powerful they become.

After a time they establish themselves as part of your core beliefs and are hard to break. This is why you get mental blocks about things. The more things go wrong the more you blame it on yourself. As a result you end up self sabotaging everything you do.

This cycle of negativity affirms your beliefs even more. You may end up discussing it with your friends, who in turn tell you about their own negative experiences. You think to  yourself why bother as it won’t work anyway

Breaking free from negative thinking isn’t an easy task. The greater your negative beliefs the harder it’ll be. However, what I’m about to share with you will make things a whole lot simpler.

Just imagine if you could reset your brain so all negative beliefs that have been holding you back disappear. You’ll begin to realise that anything is possible if you feel it is.

Uncovering your mental blocks

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Before we talk about daily positive affirmations I want you to think about any blocks that may be stopping you from moving forward. Many of these are typically formed during childhood and adolescence.

For example, if I was to say “rich people” how does that make you feel? If you believe all wealthy people are selfish with bad intentions then you may well have a block with making money.

Did your parents install in you that money is scarce and hard to come by? Do you feel uncomfortable every time you get a bill? You may be able to pay it but you fear money going out of your account in case you can’t replace it.

You may have a block with relationships and always seem to attract the wrong guy or girl. Were your parents happy, or always fighting each other? We often look to our parents as examples and this may be why you can’t break out of the cycle of attracting the wrong guy.

You may have been in an abusive relationship in which you were continually fed some very negative statements about yourself. After a while you start believing them, and as a result you feel worthless.

You may have ended that relationship but because of your low self esteem you end up attracting the same type of guy time and time again. It’s as if you don’t feel worthy of love.

Are you always trying to complete a project but keep failing? This could be self sabotage at work. As I mentioned previously, this is often caused by getting into a cycle of negativity.

You may not even be aware of your mental blocks as they become part of your subconscious. Your rational conscious mind knows what you have to do, but subconsciously you’re sabotaging any progress.

How positive affirmations can help

Just as negative affirmations have the power to brainwash you, so positive affirmations have the same effect. Don’t underestimate the power of repeating words or phrases.

The subconscious mind happily accepts anything you feed it. It doesn’t question, unlike the conscious mind. Most of our reactions to situations are a result of subconscious thinking. If you don’t believe you’re worthy of happiness or success there will always be something blocking your path.

Affirmations can unblock pathways attracting positive energy. It won’t be instant and you will have to repeat your daily positive affirmations multiple times during the day every day

The length of time it will take depends how deeply engrained your beliefs are. If you’ve experienced years of abuse from a partner, or grew up with strong beliefs that money is bad, you’ll have to be patient with yourself.

It could take months before you start to feel differently about things. On average it takes around 30 days to form new habits or change a way of thinking.

Once you’ve started seeing everything in a different light, providing you continue to affirm your new belief systems they will stay with you. Remember, the more you affirm a thought or belief the deeper it becomes.

Making your daily positive affirmations

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Affirmations are very personal and no two goals are exactly the same. However, there are plenty of positive affirmations online to get you started.  Spend time thinking about areas in your life that need improvement.

Pick one area and work out what you need to do to bring about positive change. Make this into a series of attainable steps or goals.

Next, visualise yourself having already attained these goals. How does it feel? It’s important to get emotionally involved in order to keep you motivated.

This step can be hard if you’ve spent years building up negative belief systems. You really have to use the power of your imagination and understand that anything is possible.

How to make affirmation cards

positive affirmation cardNext, we’re going to make some affirmation cards that will boost your success. You can buy affirmation cards already made, but I want you to target your exact needs.

Find or buy some thin card and cut into squares. Ideally all about the same size.  Now the fun part! Using coloured pencils, watercolour, or whatever medium you desire, create designs you feel represent your affirmations. Don’t be afraid to use lots of colour. Be bold!

Allow space for writing your text, though you can incorporate it in your design. Don’t aim for perfect! It’s not about the artwork, it’s about affirming your beliefs!

Ideally, the cards should be of a size you can carry with you during the day. About the size of a playing card or slightly larger is ideal.

You could make your affirmations in the present tense as if you’d already achieved your goals. This is very powerful since your subconscious will accept it as being real.

For example “I have plenty of money for all my needs” “I am a loving person with a lot to give” You may find this difficult if your beliefs are strongly embedded, so a different approach may be best.

In this case, write your affirmations as if you’re in the process of achieving them. For example, “I have found it hard to accept myself but I’m learning to love myself more every day”

Affirmations raise your level of vibration. Since you attract energy which is on the same or similar levels you’ll start drawing positive experiences and people into your life.

Using visualisation and positive affirmations.

Put daily positive affirmations on steroids by using the power of visualisation. We tend to daydream about possible scenarios we don’t want, but turn this around and imagine your perfect outcome instead!

Spend a few quiet moments daydreaming about your desires each day. Really focus on feelings and bring it to life with colour! A good idea is to practice mindfulness as well.

This helps strengthen focus as well as put negative thoughts on hold. Mindfulness is a wonderful tool to help you feel calm and tackle problems without feeling overwhelmed.

Forget past mistakes

Daily positive affirmations will certainly help you feel good about yourself, but you also have to stop revisiting past mistakes. What’s done is done. Learn from them and move on. The past can seriously hold you back if you let it! Here are a few daily affirmations to get you started.

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Kathy

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Why You Should Practice Gratitude Daily

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There are many reasons why you should practice gratitude.

For a start, those who practice gratitude tend to be happier and more content. Constantly wanting what you don’t have is self destructive. It can give you low self esteem, wreck relationships and lead to depression.

 Being thankful makes you appreciate life. It can lift you out of the lowest mood almost instantly. We all have times when things go wrong or don’t work out the way we want. Giving thanks is the best way to feel better.

Wallowing in self pity lowers your vibrational level, attracting more negativity. You see, everything in the universe including you and I is created from energy. This energy is in a constant state of vibration.

If you could look through a high powered microscope you’d see that what we regard as solid objects are made up of billions of subatomic particles all revolving around each other in a constant state of movement

Your thoughts are also energy, attracting that which is on the same vibrational frequency. Though you can’t see energy it exists. Just like radio waves they’re invisible to the naked eye.

Gratitude can instantly alter the frequency of energy you’re sending out in the universe.  The effects on your whole being can be truly amazing, helping you both physically and mentally.

Gratitude and relationships

All relationships go through ups and downs, but how can gratitude help? Being thankful keeps the relationship strong, reducing the risk of separation. It will be far less likely you or your partner will have an affair if you show appreciation for each other.

Being thankful for all the little things you’re partner does makes for a closer and more intimate relationship.

You thank him for doing the housework after you’ve had a long day at work. Showing appreciation makes it likely he’ll do more to help you.

In return, you’ll want to do things for him. This mutual appreciation can strengthen a shaky relationship. It can even stop divorce in some cases!

Being thankful also stops complacency setting in. Long term relationships are especially prone to this. You start taking each other for granted after a while, and a downward spiral begins.

Practicing gratitude in a relationship keeps the spark alive. Your partner feels loved and appreciated every time you thank him. You’ll also feel loved for the care and attention he lavishes on you.

Make a point every day of thanking him or her. Just a simple thank you goes a long way. After cooking dinner in the evening my partner would always thank me, saying how delicious it was.

He made me feel very special and loved. In return he’d serve coffee and dessert while I was working on the laptop. You see, it’s the small things that add up in a relationship. Acknowledging them with gratitude keeps the relationship strong

Love and gratitude

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Love and gratitude couldn’t be more closely connected. If you’re looking for love in your life try thinking of all the things you’re grateful for. Use this alongside visualization and you’ll soon start seeing results.

Many people unknowingly block love by giving off negative energy. The moment you change this you’ll start to find the right person comes into your life.

Gratitude and health

One of the greatest benefits of practicing gratitude is the positive effect it has on your health.  Research has shown being thankful lowers blood pressure, makes you feel less stressed, and boosts your immune system.

Those who practice gratitude tend to have more disease busting cells in their body. They shake off minor ailments such as colds much faster.

This goes to show the true power of positive thinking. It’s now widely accepted that mind and body are very closely connected.

By practicing gratitude, mental health can be greatly improved. Thinking happy, positive thoughts releases feel good hormones such as oxytocin and serotonin.  These both play an important role in your happiness and wellbeing.

Feelings of anger and stress are reduced. You’re more likely to feel grateful and more compassionate towards others. Stress melts away when you realise how unimportant many of your problems really are

Keeping a daily gratitude journal

Gratitude journals are becoming an increasingly popular way of improving all areas of your life. If the idea of writing in a diary everyday sounds boring and non productive read on as I explain more.

In this fast paced world we live in today it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and dissatisfied. Setbacks can be hard to take, and focusing on negativity only serves to make things worse.

Making time each day to journal all the things you should be thankful for can transform your life. If this sounds a bit over the top I urge you to try it for a few weeks anyway. Don’t look upon it as a waste of time since it can actually boost productivity.

You could keep a virtual journal online or buy yourself a diary. Even just spending a few minutes thinking about all the good things in your life can change your brain chemistry.

The brain releases neurotransmitters when you’re thinking happy or sad thoughts, and this has a direct effect on you physically. Your energy levels, digestive system, and as I mentioned previously, immune system are all affected by the way you’re thinking.

If you can set aside ten minutes at the end of the day for writing in your journal, after 30 days it will become a habit.

You’ll also notice how much calmer and happier you’ve become. You’ll sleep better as you’ve been focusing on all the good things in your life. If you’re stressed or anxious over something it can be hard to sleep.

You’ll also notice an increase in creativity. When you’re anxious or stressed you’re blocking your creative flow. As soon as you feel grateful and happy life seems good again. Ideas start flowing and your productivity soars.

Gratitude and law of attraction

gratitude and the law of attractionGratitude and law of attraction are very closely connected. In fact, practicing gratitude daily can help manifest things much faster.

The law of attraction is always working, but the results you get are always dependent on your thoughts.  As I explained earlier thoughts are energy and attract that which is on the same or similar frequency.

If you want to manifest good things in your life, being thankful will certainly help. You’ll be putting positive energy out in the universe and can expect to attract positive experiences in return.

Hoonopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Showing gratitude plays a very important part and has been shown to remove mental blocks. Read my article to find out more.

How to attract money with gratitude

Just like attracting love in your life you need to be on the right vibrational wavelength to attract money. The problem most people have with a lack of what they desire is they’re focusing on not having it.

Unfortunately, this only serves to create more lack. Switching your focus to joy and gratitude raises your level of vibration. You’re sending powerful signals into the universe of abundance. Consequently, the universe will deliver more of the same into your life.

This is why people who focus on debt tend to attract more debt. Focusing on a solution and having faith the universe will deliver is a much better idea.

While you can’t change situations you’ve no control over, you can change the way you react to them. Practicing gratitude helps change the way you see things making life seem happier and more joyous. You can also attract money by giving some of it away. I know that might sound mad, especially if you’re struggling financially.

Giving, just like gratitude is a very powerful way to attract abundance.
However, it must be done with sincerity.  Using gratitude or giving with the ultimate intention of gain won’t work. You must always be honest and sincere.
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Wishing you health and happiness

Take care
Kathy
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Getting Back With An Ex-What You Need To Know

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Getting back together with an ex can work out providing you follow a few simple rules.

Couples split up for a variety of reasons and sometimes being apart for a while can be the best thing. Read more to find out what you need to know before deciding to get back with your ex. Forming a relationship in your twenties when you’re still maturing is a common reason for break ups.

It happened to me as there was so much I wanted to do in life and settling down was not the right decision.   Affairs, resentment, jealousy, lack of communication are also responsible for relationships ending. Occasionally, after a few months, years or even decades you meet up again. Maybe a divorce, or other life changing event brings you back in touch.

Something ignites a spark and those feelings you once had start to resurface. You’ve both grown and matured. You’ve travelled, had a family, or furthered your career. If you broke up on bad terms time can be a great healer.

You’ve both had space to recover and move on from the past. In this article we look at why you want to rekindle an old flame and what you need to do if you want to give things another go.

You can’t go back

Often the past seems a rosy and comfortable place to live. You remember all the happy times together, missing out the bad bits. If you want to get back with your ex you must realise it has to be a new relationship. The old one didn’t work and is dead. You can’t go back.

What to do if you’ve lost contact

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Sometimes couples remain friends and there is no loss of contact. What happens though if you’ve not been in touch for a long time? What do you say? How do you open up a line of communication? What if your ex won’t talk?

Firstly, with social media, email, texting or picking up the phone you’re not short of ways to make contact. My advice is to start with a simple text message. Ask a question? Everyone likes to talk about themselves. He or she will be surprised and flattered that you care enough to ask. Keep it very simple and don’t give any hint that you’re desperate.

If you get a reply that’s fantastic, but don’t get too excited at this stage. Try to establish a dialogue so you’re both opening up a little. If your ex doesn’t want to talk there’s nothing you can do. Don’t keep texting or phoning as you’ll destroy any hope of a reconciliation.

There’s always the chance your ex has met someone else. If you’ve been out of touch a long time this is a real possibility. If on the other hand your ex is responsive and keen to establish contact that’s great news. Keep things casual but don’t be afraid to flirt a little. Keep communication to texting or messaging in the early stages. You could pick up the phone but you’ll want to rehearse what to say.

Messaging or emailing is better. It gives you time to craft a good message and think about what to say. Once you’ve started to feel comfortable and communication has become free flowing you could try suggesting a meet up.  This is of course dependent on distance and where you’re both living.

 

Why do you want to get back with your ex?

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This may sound an odd question to ask but you must want to get back together for the right reasons. Feeling lonely is a poor reason for wanting your ex back.

 

Getting a dog or broadening your social life may be a better option! If you’ve just been through a divorce or broken up with your current partner the past can seem a very comforting place.

 

This is another very poor reason. Rebound relationships rarely last even it is with an ex.

 

When you’re on the rebound memories of a past relationship suddenly seem very rosy. In this case you’re better off with counseling and recovering from your latest break up.

 

You’ve matured and genuinely start to miss him or her. It’s funny but it often takes a clean break with years apart to make you realise what you’ve lost.

The latter is of course, the best reason for wanting to get back with your ex.

Talk to each other openly

Before you even decide to give things another go you must be very open with each other. Think about what went wrong and discuss these issues.

There are always two sides to a failed relationship. Lack of communication is a common reason for break ups. Not making enough time for each other.

Affairs are often a result of feeling unhappy. Instead of ending the relationship one of you compensates by finding someone else who has the qualities you need.

Jealousy can also kill a relationship.

 
Possessiveness and resentment of time spent with friends are very destructive. Insecurity can eat away at you. You can’t control another human being. Trying to do so will push you further apart.

These mistakes serve as valuable lessons. If you can overcome them you’ll stand a far greater chance of making it work again.

Focus on the positives.

Having talked through want went wrong start focusing on things you like about each other. These are probably what drew you together in the first place. Maybe you loved his thoughtfulness, or he loved the way you organise things.

Find common interests.

Depending how much time has passed since you were together your tastes and interests may have changed. This is just part of life. What you liked 5 or 10 years ago may be very different from what you like today.

Become friends first

Regaining trust and building a new relationship takes time. You can’t and shouldn’t expect things to go back the way they were. Starting again as friends makes it a bit easier. You’re not making any commitment but just seeing how things go at a slower pace.

If you want a lasting relationship you’ll need to put in the effort. Sliding back into old ways won’t work. It may seem easy as you both know each other so well from past times.

However, if you don’t make changes your new relationship may fail just like the old one. I can’t emphasize enough the importance of talking things through and being open and honest with each other.

 

Some of the changes you both need to make may be quite major and challenging. However, if you both still love each other you should be prepared to do this.

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What you need to ask yourself

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Before you decide to start a new relationship with your ex you need to ask yourself the following. This will save you any future heartache.

 

Can you really trust your ex? If he or she cheated once do you think they’ll do it again?

 

Are you truly able to forgive? If you harbor resentments and can’t let go of past mistakes you’ll be storing problems for the future.

 

If things don’t work out second time around can you handle another break up? Nothing is guaranteed and the idea of having to go through the heartache of splitting up again may be too much. Getting over a break up is hard and takes time.

 

Rekindling an old flame may seem idyllic. You may have been fantasizing about it in your mind. Reality though may be completely different.

 

If you’re reliving the past and expect things to go back as they were you will be disappointed. Remember, this is a completely new relationship. What you did before didn’t work then and probably won’t work now.

 

Build your network of friends and maintain outside interests

You should never have to give up friends or interests in a healthy relationship. Having a circle of friends no matter how small is important.

If your only friends are those you both share it may prove difficult after a break up. They may not want to take sides and you could be left feeling very lonely.

 

Interests outside the relationship help to keep things fresh. You’ve always something to talk about.

Reuniting with ex partners can be wonderful. All that time apart has healed the pain and now you’re in a good place to start over. Making a relationship work requires give and take on both sides and you may need to make compromises.

I hope you’ve found this article helpful and that I’ve at least given you some hope if you’re missing your ex and want him or her back in your life.
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How To Curb Impulse Shopping

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Do you find it hard to control impulse shopping?

 

 

We’ve all been prey to impulsive shopping at one time or another. You find yourself at the checkout reaching for that special offer candy bar. You had no intention of buying chocolate but you can’t miss out on such a good offer.

So what if you’re on a diet! Anyway, you can always start again tomorrow! After all, you deserve a treat after all that shopping!

Small items bought at a supermarket checkout won’t make much difference to your bank balance. Alarm bells should start to ring though if impulse buying becomes an everyday event, especially if they’re high priced. Buying expensive items when you don’t need them soon becomes a habit.

Advertising tricks to make you reach for your credit card

An item catches your eye in a store. You don’t need it yet you feel an overwhelming urge to make that purchase. It’s the latest must-have kitchen gadget and the special offer expires in 3 hours!! There are only 2 left!! You can’t possibly leave without it!!

2 weeks later you end up with yet another unwanted gadget stuck at the back of your kitchen drawer! Chances are that if you don’t need an item you’ll never use it anyway.

Scarcity is a common tactic used by advertisers to make you buy. It prays on your emotions creating a feeling of panic.

If you were to walk away and ask yourself could you survive if they sold out, you’d be surprised by your answer. Not only will you live happily without it but you’ll see the same item for sale at an even lower price!

Do you have an impulse shopping personality?

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If you’ve always found it hard to resist buying on impulse could it be down to your personality? It’s quite possible, especially if you’re very image conscious.

If you’d hate to be seen wearing last years fashion, or conscious of the make of car you drive then you may be someone who cares deeply about how others see you.

You couldn’t be seen wearing anything unless it’s a bargain with the latest brand name. And you’d hate to be seen driving around in a sedate family saloon, even if it meant putting car payments on your already stretched credit card. You just can’t resist that shiny red sports car in the showroom window! And it’s such a bargain!

You somehow feel people are judging you if you don’t keep up with the latest trends. Often this can be down to feelings of insecurity or lack of self-belief. However, it can also just simply be that you love shopping. You get pleasure out of finding a bargain.

When you make a purchase in a sale and grab a bargain you get a rush of adrenaline. The same goes for any impulsive buy. It’s a quick fix and just like a drug addict, the high is short lived.

Soon after your purchase and feelings of excitement have worn off you go off in search of your next fix. Unfortunately, this can have disastrous consequences on your credit card.

Debt has a habit of mounting up very fast and soon you find it hard to make even the minimum payments. Yet, still you can’t stop yourself making the next impulsive buy.

Forming an emotional attachment to something before you’ve even bought it is quite common. This is why advertisers find it to so easy to sell to us.

Maybe you see a product advertised on tv a few times. You somehow connect with it, and the next time you’re in a store and see it for sale you just have to buy it! It wasn’t on your shopping list but you felt compelled to get it.

Finding emotional triggers that cause impulse shopping

Often when you get upset or feel stressed you compensate by indulging in something that makes you feel better. This could be alcohol or food related. However, it can also be impulse shopping.

The worse you feel, the more you want to treat yourself. While you’ll feel comforted in the short term it won’t address the problem and you’ll soon be looking for your next shopping fix,

Next time you want to make an impulsive buy, stop and take a deep breath. Walk away and give yourself chance to think. It’s all too easy to get caught up in the hype of a sale.

Ask yourself why you need this product and note how you’re feeling at the time. Do you feel sad or stressed?

If a pattern emerges then you know your emotional trigger. Once you begin to understand what’s making you spend impulsively you can take action and deal with it.

Depression compulsive spending

Depression is a common cause of impulse buying behavior. If you’re an unmarried female you’re more likely to have impulsive spending habits. Feeling depressed especially if you’re on your own can make you feel worthless. Spending impulsively relieves that negative feeling for a short while.

As I previously mentioned, it never lasts long. To make matters worse you may even hate yourself for overspending, creating more negativity.

To address the issue you have to treat the depression. Depending how bad you’re suffering you may need counselling or medication. If you just get bad days then you can try overcoming depression with positive thinking.

Using nlp hypnotherapy to stop impulsive spending

Nlp therapy helps you relax and revisit negative situations in a calm and relaxed way. This can be highly beneficial if you’re prone to addictive behavior. You get to experience emotions and feelings without physically being there. You’ll find nlp practitioners in your area by simply looking on Google. Always check their credentials first and find testimonials from happy patients.

Practicing mindfulness to curb impulsive shopping

Mindfulness is the art of focusing on the present moment. It stops you worrying about the past or future. It can also be used to curb impulsive shopping.

Before you go shopping make a list of exactly what you need. As you’re browsing the aisles focus only on your list. Be mindful of things that catch your eye. If this happens just gently re-focus back to your shopping list.

If you get drawn to a bargain you really can’t resist just remind yourself of your credit card balance! Impulsive spenders rarely give a second thought to credit.

If you can get into the habit of doing just that one thing you’ll start to see a shift in your spending behavior. I’m always telling people not to focus on debt as it creates more debt. But, if you’re an impulsive shopper it can help curb spending.

So you see you can control impulse shopping by following a few simple techniques. You don’t need to wait until you’re in financial meltdown before taking action!

If you still can’t control your spending leave your credit cards at home. If you’re shopping online put your cards out of view. Put them somewhere hard to reach making it less likely you’ll impulse buy. If I’m sitting comfortably on the sofa with the cat I’m less likely to get up and search for credit cards!

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Who Is Abraham Hicks And Can He Really Help Manifest Your Dreams?

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Who is Abraham Hicks you may ask? You’ve seen his name mentioned in many law of attraction books, but is he a real person?

The answer may surprise you as Abraham is a non-physical entity. Abraham is a group consciousness from a non-physical realm.

They describe themselves as source energy. This is energy in it’s purest form and is what we experience during overwhelming feelings of love or pure joy.

How do you connect with source energy?

Abraham teaches that you’re already connected and that source energy never leaves you. It’s always flowing through you but commonly, we put up resistance to it.

This is when you feel out of sorts, depressed, or worried. You can increase your awareness of source energy during meditation as your thoughts start to slow down.

Many people have so much going on in their minds that it’s hard to be aware of this powerful energy. Once you do become aware of it and let go of resistance your life can dramatically change.

Meditation and mindfulness are both excellent ways to get in touch with source energy, allowing you to be in a place of non-resistance. When you’re creating barriers to this amazing and loving energy you’re experiencing fear, doubt and lack of self-belief.

The best time of day to meditate is first thing in the morning when you’ve just woken up. Your mind is less likely to be busy with thoughts and letting go of resistance will be much easier.

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abraham hicks teachings show us that gratitude is another powerful way to let go of resistance. Thinking of all the good things in your life rather than focusing on the negative raises your vibration. This brings you into closer alignment with source energy.

The higher your vibration the easier you’ll find it to feel your connection with source energy. With fewer thoughts to distract you, you’ll be able to focus on manifesting your desires into your life.

Esther Hicks and Abraham

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Esther Hicks is a motivational speaker who’s able to channel the teachings of Abraham.

Both her and her husband Jerry tour America giving seminars and passing on Abraham’s words of wisdom. She takes questions from the audience giving Abraham’s response. Esther channels the energy and insights from this amazing force, passing the knowledge on to audience members.

Is Esther Hicks a medium?

Esther never really thought of herself as a medium but claims messages for loved ones started coming through to her. This connection with spirit became stronger as her gift developed. She decided not to resist it and began using it in her work with Abraham.

Abraham teaches that everything including money is energy. All of which is in a constant state of vibration. As I’ve mentioned so many times before, if you want something you have to align your energy towards it.

abraham hicks teachings show that getting what you want including money and wealth really isn’t difficult. The problem with many people is that they’re unknowingly creating barriers for themselves.

All it requires is for you to simply tune into money in the right frequency. This is not so different from tuning into a radio station.

If you’re listening to some music on the radio and you decide you don’t like it, what do you do? Say you like jazz funk for example and you’re hearing country music which you hate. You simply turn the knob or select the frequency of another station. It’s the same

Manifestation

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Abraham teaches us that everything we want is already with us. All you have to do is align your energy with it for instant manifestation. Of course, you can’t wave a magic wand and make money appear out of thin air unless you’re Harry Potter!

But by aligning yourself with the energy of wealth and abundance you can attract opportunities into your life that can serve to bring you wealth.

These opportunities may come to you as creative inspiration. Coincidences begin to happen that seem to bring the right people into your life at the right time. As I mentioned before things happen for a reason and is what we know as synchronicity.

There is no such thing as death

Through Esther Hicks Abraham teaches us that there is no such thing as death. Energy never dies but simply changes its form.

We simply pass from the physical into the non-physical. Abraham reassures us that we never lose connection with loved ones who’ve passed on, and in fact we form a stronger bond.

They get to know us more intimately as they’re aware of our innermost thoughts and feelings. As humans, most of us rarely show who we really are. We may have a strong and loving relationship with our spouse or kids but we’ll never get to truly know them until we pass over.

Abraham Hicks books

Esther Hicks has published many books on the law of attraction through the teachings of Abraham. There are many testimonials of people who’ve turned their lives around by taking action on the knowledge that’s shared in her books.

Many are available on Amazon either in Kindle format or as a paperback and hardback editions. There are also plenty of videos on youtube of Esther and Jerry Hicks.

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Abraham Hicks quotes

The following quotes are some of my favorite from Abraham and I hope you enjoy them!

“As you think, you vibrate. And it is your vibrational offering that equals your point of attraction. So what you are thinking and what is coming back to you is always a vibrational match.”

“Everything that happens to you is created by the Energy you are summoning and allowing. Or not.”

“Like the air you breathe, abundance in all things is available to you. Your life will simply be as good as you allow it to be.”

“The Law of Attraction is most understood when you see yourself as a magnet getting more and more of the way you FEEL.”

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“It’s not your work to make anything happen. It’s your work to dream it and let it happen. Law of Attraction will make it happen.

In your joy, you create something and then you maintain your vibrational harmony with it, and the Universe must find a way to bring it about.”

“Dollars aren’t the root of happiness, but they are not the root of evil either. They are the result of how somebody lines up the Energy.”

“It is natural for my body to be well. Even if I don’t know what to do in order to get better, my body does. I have trillions of cells with individual Consciousness, and they know how to achieve their individual balance.”

“If there is something that you desire and it is not coming to you, it always means the same thing. You are not a vibrational match to your own desire.”

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As you think, you vibrate. And it is your vibrational offering that equals your point of attraction. So what you are thinking and what is coming back to you is always a vibrational match.”

“What you are living is the evidence of what you are thinking and feeling, every single time.”

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this article and that it’s answered the question of who is Abraham Hicks

Wishing you health and happiness

Take care:)

Kathy