How To Overcome Depression With Positive Thinking
How To Overcome Depression With Positive Thinking
If you suffer from depression it can be like you’re stuck in a black hole and everything seems pointless. You get good and bad days, but on the bad days even getting out of bed is an effort. You have no energy, and the smallest task is like climbing a mountain.
We all have off days, but real depression is different. It’s more than just feeling a bit low, or a bit depressed about something.
What causes depression?
There are many reasons why you may be depressed. Loss of a loved one, divorce, illness, redundancy, to name but a few.
If you suffer from a mental illness or your depression was caused by grief, you must take any medication the doctor prescribed for you, as positive thinking on it’s won’t help.
How does depression start?
Depression can start with a few negative thoughts in your mind that won’t go away. You feel depressed at moving to a new area for example, and dwell on the loneliness and isolation. You feel cut off from friends and family, and you start to focus on these sad thoughts more and more. They build up in your mind and you start to feel as if you’re under a black cloud.
You may have broken up from a long term relationship and feel you’ve lost your soulmate and your life is over. You remember the happy times, and keep going over in your mind the row you had before the break up.
Grown up children leaving the home is a bit like bereavement, even though they may not have moved far. You may feel as if you have no more purpose in life, and it can be quite a shock to the system.
All these life experiences can make you depressed, and once you’re in this cycle of negative thinking it’s very hard to break out of.
changing negative thoughts takes time and you won’t do it overnight. just take it one step at a time, and be patient with yourself.
you will get days when everything seems black and pointless, this is to be expected if you’ve worked yourself into a cycle of negative thought.
Getting rid of negative thoughts
Before you get rid of negative thoughts you have to acknowledge them. Write every negative thought down on paper, even if you don’t think it will work. Just give this a chance. Next write down reasons why they’re not true.
e.g. “my boyfriend left me, I’ll never find love again”, or “I lost my job and I’m to old to find another” your boyfriend did love you once, and for whatever reason has moved on. you can find love again. there are plenty of guys just waiting to date someone like you.
Losing a job may seem the end of the world, but plenty of women and men are being being hired all the time in middle age and much older.
how to use meditation to ease depression
meditation will only work if your depression is mild to moderated. Severe depression requires urgent help from your doctor.
you will need to find a quite place to meditate where you won’t be disturbed, and can go to each day. If you’ve never meditated before the best way to start is with guided meditation.
This takes away all the hard work as you don’t have to think, but just follow the instructions given. You should set aside at least 10 minutes once or twice a day to get any benefit. meditation works well for both depression and anxiety, as the combination of breathing techniques and clearing the mind is very calming. You become aware of your thoughts, and after some practice becomes easier to replace the cycle of negative thoughts with new positive ones.
Can daily affirmations help depression?
Affirmations can certainly help to beat depression, but you need to stick to a daily routine. Depending on how depressed you feel, you may get days when any activity is too much including chanting affirmations. If this is the case, just wait until you mood lifts a little. If you force yourself to meditate or chant affirmations when you’re not up to it your heart won’t be in it, and you’ll get poor results.
just as negative thoughts can become a habit, so can positive ones. It can take around 30 days for the subconscious mind to accept new thoughts, so don’t expect miraculous overnight successes.
you need to write down your affirmations and say them aloud, or in your mind several times a day.
Can visualisation ease depression?
The mind is very powerful and capable of achieving far more than you could ever realise. Your subconscious mind is unable to differentiate between real and imagined scenes that you play out in your head. Focusing on the negative and feared outcome can make you feel far worse, and even draw these much feared situations towards you.
For example you feel anxious and depressed at the thought of a job interview. You badly need this job, but in your mind you play out scenarios where you say the wrong thing, and mess the whole interview up. You feel depressed as you’re sure you’re not good enough and don’t stand a chance.
By imagining yourself happy and confident walking into the interview with everything planned out in your mind of what you’re going to say, you will be far more likely to get the job, and your depression will lift as a result.
Try easing depression by imagining a happy day you experienced in the past. Really feel the emotion, the sounds and how happy you were. If it was a day on the beach feel the warmth of the sun on your face and hear the sound of the waves lapping on the shore, and seagulls flying overhead. Play some calming music in the background, breathe in deeply and totally relax.
Try this simple exercise every day, allowing at least 15 minutes.
Just by giving yourself a short break from this cycle of negative thinking can make a big difference
I have tried this many times when feeling a bit low and it works for me, so hope it works for you as well.